So what is it that makes a person powerful? Affluence? Intelligence? Chiseled physique? We sure would love to possess any or all of the above! However, on the granular level it all boils down to the power of choice. We can choose a path paved in education, seeking out arenas to be influential over others or pounding it out at the gym. We possess free will to pursue our goals and dreams.
Once an individual realizes that the power to choose is in their midst, it could change their life for good as they begin see things in this new light. They recognize the ownership aspect of all they do and say now with the ball in their court. There is nothing mystic about this concept nor is it unattainable for even the most seemingly powerless individual. It is just a skill set. Equate this with the idea that if I actually go to the gym and actually work out, I will get stronger. Keep in mind that repetition and mindfulness are key ingredients in the mix.
A powerful person says, “I choose to be responsible for myself and I will be responsible in relationship with others, requiring others to respect me as I respect them. I foster self control through this connection. You will never be disappointed with my choices because I have already set the standard with love, respect and responsibility. You can count on my yes being yes and my no being no. There is no fear, second guessing or surprises in relating with me. I realize that not everyone is going to like me (particularly powerless people) and that’s ok.”
Here are the traits seen in a powerful person:
Always at peace
Driven by truth
Take full responsibility for the choices they make
Find happiness based on who they are, what they desire and what they are committed to
Deliberately set standards for how they will be treated
Deliberately set standards for how they treat others
They are who they say they are
They do what they say they will do
Love is never dependent on being loved in return
They love no matter what
Here are the traits in a powerless person:
Never content
Driven by anxiety
Need others to make them happy
Since it seems not safe to be themselves they need to latch on to others to cope and survive
It’s their mission to control using all sorts of tactics that are toxic to themselves and others: nagging, withdrawal, ridicule, anger, crying, undue pressure attempting to get their way.
Can you recognize the traits of a powerful person yourself or your loved one? Powerless? If you do just know that meeting with a clinical counselor or for marriage counseling can help you overcome powerlessness and begin to live a more satisfying life in all your relationships. The benefits of learning to be powerful, as you can see, are great. You can go from being powerless to powerful, controlling to self-control, fear to love, and distance to connection. It’s your call…
Dr. Anita J. Arrunategui/ Images: Canva Pro/ Danny Silk “Keep Your Love On
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