Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. 2 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ. 3 If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. 4 Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, 5 for each one should carry their own load. Galatians 6: 1-5, Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you. Proverbs 9: 8
1. Pray first, listen second and then do it again.
a. And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive everyone that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. Luke 11:4
b. It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife; but every fool will be quarreling. Proverbs 20: 3
c. Do not say, “I will repay evil”; Wait for the LORD, and He will rescue and save you.
d. Differing weights are detestable and offensive to the LORD, and fraudulent scales are not good. Proverbs 20:22
e. The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out Proverbs 20:5
With God, process your hurt and frustration as well as your fear and sense of injustice.
2. Be direct.
a. If your brother or sister[a] sins,[b] go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’[c] 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. Matthew 18:15-17
b. Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so, drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. Proverbs 17:14
Don't gossip be passive or avoid. Find a good time and deal with the issue.
3. Build up.
a. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29
b. A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
c. Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise - Proverbs 20:1
Don't tear down or unload. Cover one issue at a time.
