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Spring Toward Forgiveness

“You’re Bambi,” my dearly departed husband loved to tease when someone hurt my feelings or took advantage of me.

Not the most endearing of pet names, but Bambi accurately described my nature – vulnerable, sensitive, and a bit naïve to the predatory hunters of this world. And yet, like Bambi, I also returned into spring after surviving many winter tragedies, like my mother’s untimely death when I was a doe-eyed young adult.

Given the frequency and severity of many predators’ attempts to harm me (physically, emotionally, financially, and socially), I have developed a thicker hide and a greater capacity for forgiveness, a process that helps me find inner peace.

My Path to Forgiveness
Over the years, my Bambi nature has become both a blessing and a curse. On the blessing side, kindred spirits behold me as a safe confidante; on the curse side, malicious predators eye me as a bully target.

Don’t get me wrong. Like a deer, I can abandon my normal peaceful stance when I perceive a serious threat, particularly one I find morally objectionable. The deer hunter on my path usually freezes in the headlights because I don’t lash out in anger. Instead, I attack with cold logic and indisputable facts, generally resulting in the hunter’s quiet, unrepentant retreat – necessitating my need to forgive.

Fortunately, I am a psychologist who actively bucks mental health stigma and openly seeks counseling and spiritual direction. Consequently, I learned to let go of petty annoyances quickly so only the serious offenses rented space in my mind, and usually for only one winter season.
However, shortly after our wedding, my late husband and I were pommeled with assaults that ultimately contributed to his untimely death four years later.

Alone in the dangerous forest, my wounds from those assaults festered to the point of causing emotional distress, mental fog, physical ailments and crisis of faith. During the middle of a long “dark night of the soul,” I eventually discerned God’s call to forgive. “Here I am, Lord,” was my slow but steady response as I returned to regular faith practice, while seeking spiritual direction for help with forgiveness and grief counseling to address many losses.

After a year, my return to spring became evident. I lost 80 pounds, resumed writing, volunteered, made my stage debut in a community theater production and pursued a plethora of social activities. As a result, my functional depression lifted, my anger dissipated, and my spirit brightened – all because I actively pursued the practice of forgiveness. So, here I share tips on when and how to forgive.

When to Forgive
In my personal experience and professional practice, I have observed common signs when someone needs to forgive.

Rumination
Persistent focus on past grievances with no shift in attitude

Misplaced Anger
Also termed displaced anger, where a minor incident blows up into a horrible yelling match (or worse) while the real issue remains unaddressed, often fueling further incidents

Rage
Exploding with anger at the mere mention of the offending party

Prejudice
Generalizing one bad experience with one group member to an entire group

Low Self Esteem
Often indicative of the need to forgive oneself

Spiritual Problems
Impaired relationship with God and reduced/abandoned faith practices

Physical Ailments
Headaches, GI distress, back problems, heart palpitations, hypertension

Cognitive Impairments
Poor attention, memory lapses, disorganization, poor time management

Psychological Issues
Anxiety, addiction (substances or activities like work), depression, insomnia

How to Forgive
Here are tips on pursuing the forgiveness process.

Address the offense and grieve the related losses.
Often when others hurt us, we lose something – maybe our idealistic world view, our reputation, our supportive herd, our resources or our pride. It is important to clarify and acknowledge the suffering caused by the offending parties. Although this is best accomplished through talking to a trusted person or group, it can be achieved through writing or artistic expression.

Stand up to Predators!
We should never allow ourselves to be used or abused. If trapped in such a situation, please seek professional help. We all can call upon the power animal that resides within us. Remember that forgiveness is never about tolerating evil behavior. It is about letting go of the toxic remains from sinful transgressions we have suffered.

Always acknowledge, “There but for the grace of God go I.”
Conduct a moral inventory of your misdeeds and consider the reasons you caused harm to others in your past. Often, we may not be fully aware of the impact our actions have on others. Remember, we all have a predator within us. This can help us to view others with less judgment.

Put things in perspective.
Taking the plank out of our own eyes will help us to discern the speck in the other person’s eye. Perhaps physical pain or emotional upset distracted the party in the wrong. Not many of us humans can emulate Bambi’s mother’s altruism as she urged her beloved son to seek safety shortly before she got shot.

Ask if it is truly worth the upset?
Consider if this issue will matter in a week, month, or next spring. If not, let it go. Sometimes, a little humor can shed some light on the matter.

Communicate your hurt.
People often have little awareness of the impact their words and deeds have on others. Sometimes, a simple statement or request may resolve the problem. If the hunter persists, you know you took the high path and did your part, even if the relationship is too harmful to sustain.
Recognize other’s limitations.

So often, my clients complain about narcissistic family members or friends. By definition, people with this disorder are emotionally immature and lack the capacity to empathize or understand another person’s perspective. Unlike Bambi’s mother, they can only view situations from their own self-centered world view.

Lower the bar.
Not everyone will be as perfect as you perceive yourself to be. Cut them some slack. If the offenses are minor, consider sending them a card with words of endearment.

View the situation globally.
Often, hurtful situations may yield positive results in the long run. Getting fired from that dead-end job may be God’s nudge to pursue His work. Regardless, use the season of spring to seek new opportunities to serve Our Lord.

Note that forgiveness does not require reconciliation.
Some relationships are simply toxic and best avoided. If someone leads you astray from your sacred values, cut the ties. All God’s creatures thrive with loving, respectful and healing connections.
Pray for the people who hurt you.

Yes, yes – easier said than done. A good prayer formula is “I forgive (insert name) from the bottom of my heart, and I humbly ask God to bless them” You may need to repeat this prayer seventy times seven times before you can say it with the sincerity of a deer. Explore this website and read this excellent book for more ideas on forgiveness.

Start this season of spring with a mustard seed of forgiveness in your heart. Fawn over it and watch it grow into a dearly beloved bush of faith, hope and love, the true essence of Bambi.

Copyright © Jessica Loftus, 2025

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In the nuanced journey of human life, our spiritual beliefs often serve as the bedrock of our existence, influencing our perspectives, decisions, and coping mechanisms. For many, Christian faith is a source of strength, hope, and guidance through life's tumultuous seas. Simultaneously, the field of counseling has established itself as a crucial mechanism for addressing and navigating mental health challenges. When these two powerful forces—Christian faith and counseling—intersect, they create a profound synergy that can offer holistic healing and growth. This blog post explores the burgeoning relationship between Christian faith and mental health practices and the transformative potential it holds.

A Confluence of Faith and Therapy

The integration of Christian faith with counseling practices is rooted in the understanding that human beings are not just physical entities requiring psychological insight but are also spiritual beings with deep-seated beliefs and values. This approach does not dilute the significance of therapeutic principles. Instead, it enriches the counseling process by incorporating an individual's faith into their healing journey.

Holistic Healing: Mind, Body, and Spirit

One of the primary tenets of incorporating Christian faith into counseling is the acknowledgment of the person as a holistic being. This perspective aligns with the Christian view of the human person, intricately composed of mind, body, and spirit, all of which interact and influence one another. Counseling that incorporates Christian faith seeks to address and nurture each of these components, offering a more comprehensive form of healing and growth.

The Power of Faith-Based Coping

Christian faith introduces unique coping mechanisms into the therapeutic process. Prayer, meditation on Scripture, and the cultivation of a personal relationship with God can offer profound comfort and guidance. These practices do not replace therapeutic techniques but complement them, providing individuals with additional resources for dealing with life’s challenges.

Community and Connection

Another significant aspect of combining Christian faith with counseling is the emphasis on community. The Christian doctrine places a strong emphasis on fellowship and support among believers. This principle extends naturally into the counseling process, encouraging individuals to seek and offer support within their faith communities. This not only amplifies their support network but also reinforces the interconnectedness between personal healing and communal well-being.

Ethical Considerations and Client-Centric Approach

The intersection of Christian faith and counseling requires navigating with sensitivity and respect. It demands that counselors, whether they share the client's faith or not, approach each case with an open mind and a clear understanding of ethical boundaries. The goal is to support the client’s faith journey in a way that respects their belief system without imposing the counselor's own beliefs. Ensuring that the integration of faith is client-driven—aligned with their needs, consent, and comfort level—is paramount.

The Challenges Ahead

While the integration of Christian faith and counseling opens new vistas for healing, it also presents challenges. These include navigating the diverse expressions of Christian faith, respecting differing theological viewpoints, and continually balancing professional and spiritual insights. Ongoing education, both in theology and psychology, is essential for counselors walking this path, ensuring they are equipped to provide ethical, respectful, and effective support.

Empirical Support and Future Directions

Emerging research supports the efficacy of integrating Christian faith into counseling, highlighting improvements in emotional well-being, resilience, and personal growth. As this field grows, so does the need for a broader dialogue between mental health professionals and faith leaders, fostering mutual understanding and collaboration that can enhance the support provided to individuals navigating mental health challenges.

Conclusion: A Journey of Faith and Healing

The intersection of Christian faith and counseling represents a promising frontier in the pursuit of holistic healing. It acknowledges the complex, multifaceted nature of human existence, offering an approach that nurtures the mind, body, and spirit. For individuals rooted in Christian faith, this integration offers a path that aligns with their deepest values, encouraging healing and growth that resonates with their spiritual journey.

As we continue to explore this intersection, we embrace not only the potential for profound personal transformation but also the opportunity to deepen our collective understanding of what it means to live well. In grounding counseling practices in the rich soil of Christian faith, we open the door to a form of healing that is both deeply personal and expansively communal, offering hope and renewal to those on the journey toward wholeness.

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What is Christian Counseling?
Christian counseling is a powerful tool in helping you learn how to properly feed your spirit, soul, and body by providing biblical guidance, emotional support, and practical strategies to live a balanced and Christ-centered life. Here’s how it can help in each area:

1. Feeding Your Spirit: Growing in Faith

A Christian counselor can help you:
Strengthen your relationship with God by deepening your understanding of Scripture.
Develop a consistent prayer life and spiritual disciplines.
Overcome spiritual struggles, such as doubt, fear, or feeling distant from God.
Recognize and break free from spiritual strongholds that may be hindering growth.

2. Feeding Your Soul: Renewing Your Mind and Emotions
The soul includes our mind, will, and emotions, which need to be cared for in a way that aligns with God’s truth. Christian counseling can help you:
-Learn how to manage stress, anxiety, and depression through faith-based strategies.
-Replace negative thought patterns with biblical truth (Romans 12:2).
-Heal from past wounds, trauma, or unforgiveness with God’s grace.
-Strengthen emotional intelligence and decision-making in relationships, work, and personal life.
3. Feeding Your Body: Honoring the Temple of the Holy Spirit
Christian counseling acknowledges that the body is part of our spiritual walk and helps you:
-Develop healthy lifestyle habits, such as proper nutrition, rest, and exercise.
-Address physical health issues related to stress, anxiety, or emotional burdens.
-Recognize unhealthy coping mechanisms (e.g., overeating, substance abuse, neglecting self-care) and replace them with Godly alternatives.
-Learn boundaries and self-care as part of honoring God with your body and life.

Christian counseling integrates faith and professional counseling techniques to help you live in alignment with God's will. It provides a safe space to process emotions, overcome struggles, and grow spiritually, mentally, and physically.
If you’re feeling unbalanced in any of these areas, I am here to help reach out today for a free 15-minute phone consultation (772-446-1922) or check out my website at https://caterpillarcounseling.webflow.io/therapy
Be Blessed,
Dawn Taylor

Unworthiness: What It Is and What the Bible Says About It
Many people struggle with feelings of unworthiness. Whether it stems from past mistakes, negative self-perception, or life circumstances, the weight of feeling “not good enough” can be overwhelming. But what does unworthiness really mean, and more importantly, what does the Bible say about it?
Understanding Unworthiness
Unworthiness is the belief that we are inadequate, unlovable, or not deserving of good things. It often manifests in thoughts like:
• I am not good enough.
• I don’t deserve love or happiness.
• God could never accept someone like me.
These feelings can lead to shame, fear, and self-isolation. However, they are not aligned with how God sees us. The enemy thrives on lies that keep us bound in self-doubt, but God’s Word reveals the truth about our worth in His eyes.
What the Bible Says About Unworthiness
The Bible is filled with reminders that our worth does not come from our perfection but from God’s love and grace. Here are a few key scriptures that speak to this issue:
1. We Are Loved and Valued
Romans 5:8 – “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Even in our brokenness, God’s love is unwavering. His love is not conditional upon our performance or worthiness.
2. God Created Us With Purpose
Ephesians 2:10 – “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
We were intentionally created with value and purpose. Our worth is rooted in the fact that we are God’s masterpiece.
3. Our Worth Comes from God, Not Our Actions
Titus 3:5 – “He saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.”
We don’t earn our worth; it is given to us through God’s mercy and grace. No matter what we have done, His grace is greater.
4. God Calls Us His Children
1 John 3:1 – “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!”
God sees us as His children. We are not worthless; we are deeply loved and cherished.
Overcoming Feelings of Unworthiness
If you struggle with feelings of unworthiness, here are a few ways to shift your perspective:
• Meditate on God’s Word – Replace negative thoughts with biblical truth.
• Pray for a Renewed Mind – Ask God to help you see yourself the way He sees you.
• Surround Yourself with Encouraging Believers – Community can help remind you of your God-given worth.
• Embrace God’s Grace – Remember that you don’t have to be perfect; God’s grace is sufficient.
Final Thoughts
Feelings of unworthiness are real, but they do not define who we are. The Bible tells us that our worth is found in Christ, not in our past, our mistakes, or our self-doubt. When we accept God’s love and truth, we can walk in confidence, knowing that we are valued, chosen, and deeply loved.
No matter what you have been through or how you feel, God says you are worthy. Believe it, receive it, and walk in His grace!
If you need help in learning these things reach out today for a free 15-minute phone consultation (772-446-1922) or check out my website at https://caterpillarcounseling.webflow.io/therapy

Do you know you are a triune being?
Just as God is a triune being—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—we, too, are created in His image with three parts: spirit, soul, and body (1 Thessalonians 5:23). Each part plays a unique role in our lives and must be nourished properly.
1. Spirit – This is the eternal part of us that connects with God. When we accept Christ, our spirit is made alive, and we are in communion with Him (John 3:6).
2. Soul – This includes our mind, will, and emotions. It is where we make decisions, process thoughts, and experience emotions.
3. Body – This is our physical vessel, the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). It allows us to interact with the physical world.
Just as God’s three persons work in harmony, our spirit, soul, and body must be aligned under God's will for us to live a balanced and fulfilled life. That’s why it’s so important to feed each part with the right nourishment.
How do you ensure all three parts are healthy and in alignment with God's will?
Just as we are called to be mindful of how we nourish our spirit, soul, and body, we should aim to "feed" each of these areas in ways that align with God's Word. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Feeding My Spirit (Connection with God)
• Prayer & Worship – Spending time in conversation with God through prayer and worshiping Him strengthens our spirit. It is important to note this needs to be individual as well as in a corporate setting
• Reading Scripture – The Bible is my spiritual food (Matthew 4:4). It provides wisdom, encouragement, and truth, and the truth sets us free.
• Fellowship – Engaging with other Godly believers who are strong in the Lord helps keep our spirit strong (Hebrews 10:25).
2. Feeding My Soul (Mind, Will, and Emotions)
• Renewing My Mind – Filter what you read, watch, and listen to, making sure it aligns with God’s truth (Romans 12:2).
• Managing Emotions Through God’s Peace – Instead of letting emotions control me, we need to surrender them to God in prayer (Philippians 4:6-7).
• Lifelong Learning – Reading books, listening to sermons, and learning new things keep our minds sharp.
3. Feeding My Body (Physical Health)
• Eating Healthy Foods – Aiming to eat foods that give us energy and strength to do God's work.
• Exercise & Rest – Moving our bodies and getting enough rest ensures we have the stamina for life’s demands.
• Respecting My Body as God’s Temple – Avoiding harmful substances and habits that could damage my body (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).
When all three—spirit, soul, and body—are properly nourished and aligned with God's will, we experience peace, joy, and purpose.
How are you feeding each of these areas in your life? 😊
Not sure what to do? You can reach out today for a free 15-minute phone consultation (772-446-1922) or check out my website at https://caterpillarcounseling.webflow.io/therapy

Are You or Someone You Know Contentious? Here's 21 Ways To Check

1) Contentiousness defined: Words like feisty, anxious, testing, grouchy, critical, perfectionistic, blaming, shaming, hostile, opinionated, quarrelsome, argumentative, and nagging all help to describe this problem.

2) People who struggle with this issue may have a lot of anxiety as both children and adults.

3) Contentious people usually repel others, and this may come from an unconscious fear of closeness, vulnerability, and or inferiority.

4) Sometimes, contentious people major in the minors, starting fights over minor points of fact, doctrine, opinions, or other people’s behavior.

5) Blaming is a big symptom in contentious people. This is usually a result of feeling lonely and unsuccessful as well as having so much hurt, shame, anxiety, or anger at themselves on board that it spills over onto others.

6) Some women will frequently express anger through contentiousness: Some men do, too, but may either act out angrily, act out sexually, or act passive-aggressively.

7) Contentious people believe, at a deep level, that others are responsible for their lives, happiness, and or emotions.

8) Believing that they are unloved or loveable, contentious people think they must test others, especially those close to them, to ensure they won’t leave, get too close, or somehow fail to love them.

9) A contentious person is much more likely to live by anxiety, shame, fear, or hate than by faith, love, grace, and truth.

10) In reality, a contentious person’s hate, blame, criticism, and testing are really about how they see themselves, not others.

11) Acting contentious is a way of testing other people to see if the contentious person is loved.

12) Self-hate or shame is a common companion for contentious people.

13) Some contentious people experience difficult attachment at an early age and have symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Histrionic Personality Disorder.

14) Adult Children of Addicts and Co-Addicts will frequently display contentious behavior to cope with their sense of inferiority, shame, anxiety, and feeling out of control.

15) Contentious people do not set real boundaries and limits. If they set limits, they are designed to change other people rather than designed to protect themselves.

16) One-up, One-Down relationships are a frequent position contentious people take. They try to play the blaming parent, the wiser parent, the smart teacher, or other authority figure when, in reality, they are the helpless little child inside. They will sometimes go into the one-down position and play the victim.

17) Contentious people will frequently find irresponsible people to mate or work with because, many times, unconsciously, they are afraid of losing control. Sometimes, they will find super-responsible people to make up for their irresponsibility.

18) People who live with contentious people will eventually pull away or retreat in some fashion. “It is better to live in the corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” – Proverbs 21:10. "As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife – Proverbs 26:21

19) Defending yourself against a contentious person is essentially useless. Nuclear submariners talk about “Time, Distance, and Shielding” when dealing with protection from toxic materials. Solomon talks about toxicity this way: “A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike. He who would restrain her restrains the wind and grasps oil with his right hand.” Proverbs 27:15

20) Listening to feelings and avoiding defending oneself for as long as possible is the best way to deal with contentiousness. Telling the person you will distance yourself when they are contentious and then doing it with the support of others can also help. It is important to remember that boundary setting is about you, not about changing the other person. Do not create walls. Create boundaries that keep you sane.

21) Allowing natural consequences for out-of-control anger and contentiousness can also help: “Do not rescue a man given to anger, for you only have to do it again. "Proverbs 19:19

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is one of the best ways to deal with attachment as well as ACA issues. Joining a group that deals with emotional hurts and toxicity can be very helpful.

There’s a common question among Christians facing anxiety, depression, and trauma: Is seeking counseling a lack of faith? Many believers struggle with the idea of therapy, wondering if they should rely solely on prayer and scripture for healing. Some may even feel guilt or shame for considering professional help, fearing it means they aren’t trusting God enough.

But what if counseling is a tool God provides for healing? What if seeking wise counsel
is not a sign of weakness but an act of wisdom? Throughout scripture, we see God using
people—mentors, friends, and even professionals—to help others navigate struggles. Proverbs reminds us that “with many advisers, plans succeed” (Proverbs 15:22). Even Jesus himself is called the “Wonderful Counselor” (Isaiah 9:6), showing that guidance and wisdom are part of His divine nature.

The Bible reminds us seeking wise counsel is not a sign of weak faith but a step toward wisdom and healing. God often works through people—pastors, friends, mentors, and yes, even professional counselors—to bring restoration to our hearts and minds.

If you are struggling with anxiety, depression, or trauma, know that you don’t have to walk this journey alone. Seeking help is not a lack of trust in God—it’s a way of stewarding the mind and emotions He has given you. Just as we seek medical care for physical ailments, we can seek wise, faith-filled counsel for emotional and mental health.

If this sounds like you please reach out today for a free 15-minute phone consultation (772-446-1922) or check out my website at https://caterpillarcounseling.webflow.io/therapy

In the journey of a Christian marriage or relationship, it's not uncommon to arrive at a season that feels routine or lacks excitement. As Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven." This includes moments of spiritual testing and growth, even in our closest relationships. If you're finding yourself whispering, "This relationship is so boring," it's time to reflect on why and explore what you can do to cultivate a deeper, more fulfilling connection.

Identifying the Root Causes

First and foremost, it's crucial to understand what's contributing to this sense of monotony. Have daily responsibilities and distractions led you to drift apart? Has your spiritual connection or personal growth become stagnant? Often, the busyness of life can overshadow the importance of nurturing our relationships, leading to a plateau that can feel like boredom.

Moreover, in a Christian relationship, aligning with one another spiritually is paramount. Amos 3:3 asks, "Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?" This scripture highlights the importance of mutual commitment and direction in your spiritual and daily lives.

Revitalizing Your Connection

1. Prioritize Quality Time Together

Make intentional efforts to spend quality time together, beyond the routines of daily life. Schedule date nights, engage in new activities together, and create moments that allow you to see each other in a new light. Remember, it’s not the quantity but the quality of time you spend together that deepens your bond.

2. Engage in Spiritual Practices as a Couple

Reignite your spiritual connection by praying together, studying the Bible, and attending church services as a couple. Sharing your spiritual journey can bring a new depth to your relationship, aligning you both with God's purpose for your union.

3. Volunteer or Serve Together

Serving together in your church or community can be a powerful way to bond and experience the joy of giving. As you focus on helping others, you'll find your own relationship enriched and strengthened.

4. Communicate Openly About Your Needs

Boredom sometimes signals unmet needs or desires within the relationship. Open, honest communication is key. Share your feelings, listen to your partner, and work together to meet each other's needs more effectively.

5. Cultivate Personal Growth

Individual growth contributes significantly to the health of your relationship. Encourage one another’s dreams and personal development pursuits. As you both grow, you'll bring new energies and insights into your relationship.

6. Seek Guidance Through Prayer

In any endeavor, especially matters of the heart, prayer is powerful. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us not to be anxious but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Pray individually and as a couple for guidance, strength, and rejuvenation of your relationship.

7. Consider Counseling

Sometimes, seeking guidance from a Christian counselor can offer new perspectives and pathways to growth. Don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support if you're having difficulty navigating this season on your own.

Conclusion

Boredom, while uncomfortable, can serve as a wakeup call inviting us to reevaluate and rejuvenate our relationships. It’s an opportunity for growth, deeper understanding, and renewed passion. By acknowledging the season you are in, actively choosing to grow together, and leaning into your faith, you can transform what feels like stagnation into a springboard for a stronger, more vibrant connection.

God designed marriage and partnerships not just for companionship but for mutual edification and joy. Even Solomon, in his wisdom, recognized the beauty of companionship in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, saying, "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." So, when you find yourself stuck in a rut, remember, through concerted effort, faith, and God’s guidance, you can breathe new life into your relationship and emerge stronger and more connected than before.

It's a quiet struggle, often hidden behind half-smiles and hollow greetings — depression. The whispers of this unseen burden travel far beyond the confines of our minds, infiltrating every part of our being, including our physical health. As Christians, we stand on the promises of God to guide us through the shadowy valleys, yet we sometimes wonder, can depression indeed make us sick? This is a question that beckons for understanding, compassion, and the wisdom of the Lord.

The Weight of Depression

The Psalmist writes in Psalms 42:11, "Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me?" These words echo across time, resonating with many who suffer in silence. Modern research confirms that the impact of depression can transcend mental anguish to manifest in physical ailments. The mind and body are intricately woven together by God's design, and when the spirit is heavy with sorrow, the body may also bear the burden.

The Physical Symptomatology of Depression

Proverbs 17:22 tells us, "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." Indeed, a spirit oppressed by depression can lead to a host of physical symptoms that compound our daily challenges. Digestive issues, headaches, chronic pain, and even heart disease have been linked to long-term depression. The stress hormones released during depressive episodes can suppress the immune system, making the body more susceptible to infections and illnesses.

Embracing God’s Promise of Healing

In the midst of this, it is vital to remember the promises God makes to us. Jeremiah 17:14 pleads, "Heal me, O Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise." As Christians, we acknowledge that we are not immune to suffering, but we are reassured that the Lord stands with us in our darkest moments. In seeking treatment for depression, we are not exhibiting a lack of faith; rather, we are taking concrete steps towards the healing that God desires for us.

Seeking Help as a Step of Faith

James 5:14-15 encourages us, "Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up." We can take these verses both literally and figuratively. It is both a call to seek God's direct intervention and an encouragement to reach out for help within the body of Christ, which can include the assistance of medical professionals. Utilizing therapy, medication, or counseling alongside prayer and spiritual support can be a holistic approach to tackling the symptoms of depression.

Lifestyle Changes Inspired by Scripture

Adopting a healthier lifestyle can be one approach to mitigating the physical effects of depression. In 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, we are reminded that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. Ensuring adequate rest, nutrition, and exercise not only honors this temple but can also improve mood and reduce stress. Balancing our lifestyle with time for meditation on God's word, fellowship with believers, and personal rest can lead to a stronger, healthier state of being.

Community and Connection

Galatians 6:2 says, "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ." By sharing our struggles with trusted members of our congregation or support groups, we can alleviate the weight of depression. The understanding, companionship, and shared prayers can be a balm for both the soul and the body.

An Ever-Present Hope

As we navigate the ebbs and flows of mental health, let us not lose sight of our ever-present hope in Christ. Romans 15:13 blesses us with this assurance, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Our faith informs us that with God, there is always a path through the wilderness of depression, a path that leads to restoration and health.

Enduring Through Faith

To our brothers and sisters in Christ who wonder if depression can make you sick, the answer is yes — but this is not the end of your story. With faith as our cornerstone and our belief in a God who restores, we find the strength to seek healing in all its forms. Remember, you are never walking alone; through the darkest valley, His rod and His staff, they comfort us. Together, let us strive forward in faith, affirming that our God is greater than any affliction, and in Him, we find the ultimate comfort and cure. Amen.

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To help you decide here are a few questions: Feeling off? Lacking motivation? Not being heard? Unsure of your feelings? If you answered yes to any of these questions therapy may be for you.

Seeking help can give you the tools and support to navigate life's challenges. It offers a safe space to explore your feelings, work through personal issues, and develop strategies to improve your overall well-being.

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Natural disasters, such as earthquakes, hurricanes, wildfires, and floods, are life-altering events that can leave deep emotional and psychological scars on individuals and communities. While the physical devastation may be immediately visible, disaster mental health impacts can be just as profound, though often more difficult to recognize. Understanding disaster trauma recovery is the first step toward healing.

This blog covers:
What is Trauma After a Natural Disaster?
Common reactions to disaster-related trauma
The Long-Term Impact of Trauma
The Path to Healing: A Holistic Approach
Hope and Healing After a Natural Disaster


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MaryAnn Brooks (formerly Kildebeck) walks you through an adoption study at Acorn. Here is your step by step guide on what to expect in this intensive process. Begin your study today to be ready for National Adoption Day in November!
PROCESS:

Information Gathering: This can be a lengthy part of the process! It relies on your responses, the responses of your ‘collaterals’ and how busy we are. Your job? Be clear if you are not understanding something and share any roadblocks you discover. We can help you!
Questionnaire: Part of the information gathering process includes a comprehensive, detailed questionnaire. We include your voice in the report, so watch your spelling!
Prospective Adoptive Parent References
Friends and Family
Child/ren’s Physicians
Adoptive Adult’s Physicians
Educators/Schools
Therapists for the child or adult in this adoptive process in the last 4 years.
Criminal History Records must be completed at Identogo or a similar company.
Personal Visit with Prospective Adoptive Parent
Additional Communications from you, other professionals, etc.
Consolidation and Report Writing

RETAINER FEE:

We operate on a retainer basis for adoption studies.

Court Ordered Step Parent Adoption Study $1100 [extra fees for more children].
Nonrelative Guardian Adoption $2200 involving the adoption of one child [extra fees for more children].

Complete your patient portal on Acorn Counseling Education Services, and pay on that site. Online interviews might be conducted via Zoom.
ADDITIONAL CHARGES TO THE ADOPTION EVALUATION RETAINER:

Travel outside Collin, Dallas or Denton County incurs travel expense.
Testifying at court requires a separate retainer.

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Fill out this form to contact MaryAnn directly. Or you can email or call her at 940-222-8703 ext 706.

This riveting recollection of her life in a small town, and growing up in a poverty-stricken, dysfunctional family, is the story of Dr. Rosella Collins-Puoch. She experienced childhood abuse – emotional, psychological, physical, and sexual – that could have resulted in a lifetime of unresolved, destructive mental illness and drug addiction. Courageous determination propelled her escape from an abusive, dead-end existence. By God's grace, she could find her voice and live.

Her story is of an emotionally and psychologically abusive father who visited the family intermittently and made promises that he never kept. Although spiritual and industrious, her mother lacked the necessary parenting knowledge and skills to protect her due to her own unresolved, traumatic history. At age six, she began experiencing various forms of abuse. At age 15, she was allowed to marry a man, more than twice her age, who subjected her to a proverbial torture chamber.

The choice to forgive helped heal the wounds she sustained. Triumphantly, her life blueprint changed from victim to survivor. Her journey demonstrates that it does not matter how her life started; it matters how she chose to finish it!

My memoir is available on:

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It is the inevitable by-product of living in a technologically-dependent, socially-connected, and minute-managed world that peace and calm get left in the wake. Texts, emails and cell-phone calls fly in faster and more frequently than a speeding bullet. It seems there is hardly a moment in the day when we’re not busy managing the demands of work, family and our increasingly larger social world that no longer can be shut out of our lives even for a few minutes. We can no longer close the door behind us and expect that the world will be left outside. Though staying connected is important, it is no more valuable than time alone to calm our thoughts and our bodies, to restore energy and peace, and to reduce the ravages of stress. And, you have a right to a few minutes to yourself! You can decide to make time alone an equal priority. Try this 15-minute a day refresher:
First: Establish a quiet place in your home. Use a candle, a cross, icon or other meaningful symbol for focus. Pick a book of short devotional thoughts or spiritual / Scriptural readings. Decide if you want to sit or kneel and prepare your place accordingly with a pillow, mat or stool. When it is time, go to your quiet place and wait silently for a moment; breathe…relax…gently focus or close your eyes. After awhile read your devotion then be quiet again and let the thoughts settle in….pray….don’t leave quickly, but quietly move back into your day.
1. 5 minutes in the morning: How you begin your day is most important! Almost every important religious tradition speaks to the necessity of starting the day correctly. After one of the busiest days recorded in Jesus’ ministry, the next morning the disciples found him out alone, having risen early to pray. Get up just 5 minutes earlier and spend it in quietude and you will come to see what a difference it will make!
2. 5 minutes at lunch: If at home, go to your quiet place again or find some place at work where you can retreat for just 5 minutes. Go there around noon and shut out all thoughts of work. Sit quietly, eyes closed, and body relaxed. Breathe gently and just think about your breath. Recall, if you wish, the truths of your early morning devotion. Keep your thoughts away from work, problems, or “to-do”s. For a few minutes, just be at peace. End with a simple prayer of thanksgiving and then resume your day’s activities.
3. 5 minutes to end the day: As the day ends, return for just a few moments to your quiet place. After your few moments of relaxing, focusing and breathing you may want to give thanks as you recall the day just past. Briefly examine your conscience and pray, clearing it of all that disturbs you.
Try using this 15-minute a day refresher for a month and see if your sense of peace and calm have increased and stress decreased. You’re worth it!

Author: Patti Hatton, MA, LPC

Through a fellowship with The Hope & Healing Center and Institute, located on the campus of St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, Houston, Patti Hatton, MA, LPC developed a growth and enrichment program for marriages which counsels couples on the basis of the greatest commandment: love God first, with all your heart, soul and mind, then love yourself, and love others as you have learned to love yourself. Highway to the Heart provides encouragement about living life with purpose and ongoing dialog about relationships.

About the Author:

Dr. Corley is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S) in Missouri and Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) in Kansas. He specializes in marriage counseling and trauma recovery. This is an excerpt from his series called Framework for Family.

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When you read the Old Testament, what do you see?


If you see a series of hodgepodge stories thrown together that are hard to make sense of, you are not alone. For a majority of my Christian life I struggled with the Old Testament. I had trouble wrapping my brain around what God wanted me to see, and how the stories of the patriarchs applied to me at all. But the truth is, their stories are full of profound moments. Moments that God uses to accomplish His plan of redemption for you, me, and the entire world. These moments are full of sadness and heart ache, joy and peace, and success and failure. Each moment designed by God to make the reader, or listener, contemplate and think about what God is doing and how He is doing it.


One of my favorite aspects of the Old Testament is the stories where God uses family to display his vision for the future of humanity. He does this consistently throughout the tumultuous and topsy turvy lives of every family. Like an artist painting a picture. Or a director filming a movie. Each family’s journey tells a story, frame by frame, scene by scene. And each story shows God’s vision in its own unique way. This vision, which is the redemption and reconciliation of the world, is proven at each and every pivotal moment. One of the most infamous moments is found in Genesis 22. And it is a strange tale. A tale of sacrifice, loyalty, and faith. In it, God tells Abraham to sacrifice his son Isaac. To literally kill him on an alter. Isaac is the heir apparent and recipient of God's own promise to redeem the world. So not only is it seemingly wrong in that God is requesting murder. Something he's previously condemned. It also looks like He's going back on his promise to bless the world through Isaac. And so it's natural to think, "What in the heck is going on, and can God really be trusted to do what He says He's going to do?"


To the untrained eye, the above question is answered with a resounding, "No." But wait, it gets stranger. Abraham gathers Isaac, two servants, and his gear, and sets out to accomplish the task. No questions asked! So much for the importance of family, and so much for a loving God who cares for all His children! But before we condemn Abraham for being a fool and God for being a liar, a little back story is needed. Because Abraham is no stranger to God asking him to do strange things. In fact, up to this point in Abraham's journey, we have seen Abraham become prosperous by being obedient to God's strange requests. And we have seen him get into trouble by not following God's plan. Simply put, when Abraham does things God's way, he prospers his life and the lives of those around him. And when Abraham does things his way, he falters.


In Genesis 12, Abraham's journey starts out successful because he listened to God's request and left his family of origin. In contrast, the journey hits rocky ground when Abraham fails to ask God what he should do during a famine. Fear of starvation, a legitimate concern by most peoples standards, caused Abraham to make a decision without God. And so he takes matters into his own hands and moves the family to Egypt. This mis-step leads to deceit, danger, and disaster for Abraham's family, particularly his wife Sarah. And more importantly it puts God's promise of salvation for humanity at un-necessary risk. Because God had already promised to bless the nations through Abraham and Sarah's descendants in verses 2 and 3. But more on this moment later. Because you don't want to miss the principle that Abraham's story is teaching you right now. The Principle of Sacrifice. According to Thomas Constable,


“God called on Abraham to make five great sacrifices: his native country, his extended family, his nephew Lot, his son Ishmael, and his son Isaac. Each sacrifice involved something naturally dear to Abraham, but each resulted in greater blessings from God.”

The Principle of Sacrifice is important to understand, even if you've been walking with the Lord for a while and you know the principle well. Or maybe you know it, and haven't quite had it described to you in this way. For me personally, it is one of the scariest principles you must acknowledge and apply. It is important you know it well so that you can know what the will of God is in your life. Because your sacrifices are going to be inextricably linked to God's plan for you. Ultimately, God will require you to give up things you hold dear in order to bless your life and/or the lives of those around you. Paul says it best in Romans 12:1-2,


Therefore I exhort you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a sacrifice—alive, holy, and pleasing to God—which is your reasonable service. Do not be conformed to this present world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may test and approve what is the will of God—what is good and well-pleasing and perfect.

If your first thought is, "Um, no thank you." Don't fret, that makes you human. Furthermore, don't worry, God is not careless with his requests or His tests. He knows how painful they can be. And so He presents them at the right time and in the right way. Which means you can trust the details of your personal sacrifices to Him. For instance, the sacrifice of Isaac was Abraham's final test in his series of five great sacrifices. Abraham trusted God with Isaac's life because he had stepped out in faith in previous sacrifices. All of which included family relationships that were dear to him. After all Abraham had been through, he knew God possessed the supernatural power to bring Isaac back from the dead. Isaac himself had been conceived miraculously and Abraham knew the power to give life resided with God. Hebrews 11:19 gives us the insight we need.


By faith Abraham, when he was tested, offered up Isaac. He had received the promises, yet he was ready to offer up his only son. God had told him, “Through Isaac descendants will carry on your name,” and he reasoned that God could even raise him from the dead, and in a sense he received him back from there.

Here's the short and skinny. In your relationships, trust is earned, not given. And earning trust takes time. It takes periodic acts of faith where risk of safety and security are on the line. Which takes faith in the person, persons, or Person you are in relationship with. And every relationship in your life contains levels of trust. Do you trust your spouse? Do you trust your children? Do you trust your boss or those who you do ministry with? Why or why not? If the answer is "no", it may be because you have stepped out in good faith and been burned. If the answer is "yes", then the relationship has been rewarded by stepping out in good faith and having that person come through for you. This is The Principle of Faith Equals Trust.


The Principle of Sacrifice -- God will require you to give up things you hold dear in order to bless your life and the lives of those around you.
The Principle of Faith Equals Trust: All relationships require acts of faith, big and small, which multiply trust and increase connection in that relationship.

In these chapters you're focusing on your relationship to God. Do you trust God? If not, why? What happened? Did you get burned? Before moving forward in your relationship with God you will need to answer these questions. Because if you do not trust Him, your relationship can only go so deep. And if your relationship with God does not get consistently deeper. You will become stagnant in your faith. Imagine if Abraham did not have a relationship with God, then he would not have trusted God to do what He did in any of his moments. I believe there must have been hundreds if not thousands of times that God and Abraham spoke with one another. Each time an opportunity for God to build trust with Abraham.


Go back to Genesis and read each moment where Abraham is required to make a sacrifice. Do these seem like random one-off conversations between two strangers to you? No, they do not. In fact, Abraham recognizes God and God speaks to Abraham as if they know one another intimately. God and Abraham are connected on a deep relational level. And if Abraham did not trust God, then stepping out in faith becomes unreasonable. But if you live by the framework, and you develop a trusting relationship with God built on faith. What is reasonable to you will change. Because you have seen God accomplish great and wonderful things when you step out in faith. And your faith will increase, multiplying moment after moment. Increasing each time you place your trust in God and step out in faith in your relationship with Him.


Now, I don't want you to get the wrong idea. God is not calling you to literally sacrifice your teenager on the alter. No matter how much you may wish for it! So listen carefully. This is one of the most important takeaways for your understanding the principles above. God will challenge your trust in him by asking you to step out in faith during your moments. And the more you trust Him, the more He will ask from you. Faith and trust will compound on one another via your relationship with God to bless your life and the lives of those around you. Your spouse, your children, your coworkers, and your ministry. And it all starts by building trust in your relationship with God through faith. That is how God works. And this makes it even more important that we keep an adequate check and balance on the things we think God is asking us to sacrifice. So if God has brought you to a moment and you are confused about what to do next. Check three things.


Check the Bible. Is what God is asking you to do consistent with the commands you see in Scripture?

Check with God. Pray about what God would have you to do and ask for him to bring clarity to your situation.
Check with your spouse and at least one pastor, counselor, or mentor. You don't do faith alone. You have a spouse and a church community for a reason. Use them to help guide your decisions. You'll be glad you did.

Making big decisions should always be brought before our important relationships for a thorough analysis. This is because we cannot always trust our own hearts and minds to lead us down the right path. Emotions are great teachers, but poor leaders. The prophet Jeremiah says it this way, "The heart is deceptive above all things, who can understand it?" And so we must live with the fact that our thoughts and emotions cannot always be trusted. Because we don't want to take our family to Egypt when the Lord wants us to stay put.


This all looks contradictory. Because I am asking you to trust God in order to increase your faith. And these things are, in essence, wrapped up in your thoughts and emotions. Which introduces our next section perfectly. Because your psychology, the way you think and feel, matters to God. Your thoughts and your emotions play a pivotal role in your relationship with Him. Therefore, before you sacrifice your "Isaac" on the alter, read the next two chapters on thoughts and emotions, and their role in your relationship with God.

I will be teaching three workshops at an upcoming singles event at New Seasons church in Paulding County.

What is Codependency and How Does it Affect Relationships?

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Codependency is a term that often goes unnoticed in relationships until its effects become overwhelming. It describes a relationship dynamic where one partner excessively depends on the other for emotional and psychological needs, leading to an imbalance that can harm both individuals involved. Whether you're in a romantic relationship, a friendship, or even a professional setting, understanding codependency is crucial for maintaining healthy and fulfilling connections.

At Florecer Family Counseling, we recognize the complexities of relationships and the challenges that come with them. Whether you're seeking couples counseling, marriage counseling, anxiety therapy, depression therapy, Christian counseling, or therapy for Hispanics, we're here to help. Our goal is to support you in nurturing healthy relationships, improving your mental well-being, and guiding you through life's challenges.

In this blog we address:
Who Discovered Codependency
What is Codependency in Relationships?
Why is Codependency Unhealthy?
Where Does Codependency Come From?
When is Codependency a Problem?
How Codependency Affects Relationships
What are Some Common Codependency Issues?

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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome in Christian Faith: A Journey of Trust and Growth

Imposter syndrome is a common issue. It affects about 70% of adults in many areas of life. It is a constant feeling of being inadequate despite success. In professional settings, individuals might attribute their achievements to luck rather than skill. For students, it could mean feeling undeserving of academic accomplishments. In personal relationships, one might feel unworthy of love or friendship.


For Christians, imposter syndrome takes on a unique spiritual dimension. It can manifest as doubt in one's faith, worthiness of God's love, or ability to serve in the church. This doubt can stem from various sources:

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Christian Counselor, Clifton Fuller, recently published his second book about the narcissistic personality which is available on Amazon. It's entitled, "The Narcissist: When Dreams Become Nightmares." It discusses the deception of an NPD, the conmen they are, and how to recognize their warning signs. From 'closet narcissists' to 'malignant' (dangerous) narcissists, their behaviors must be honestly observed for our own protection.

Whereas Fuller's first book ("The Marriage Vampire") was written for Christian women and has many scriptures that warn Christians about narcissism, the second book takes a more clinical approach, sharing the different types of NPDs and why we must approach them in very different ways.

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Victory Over The Enemy
February 2, 2012 by ritabowman

Psalm 18:1-3

1. I will love thee, O LORD, my strength.
2. The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength,
in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.
3. I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised:
so shall I be saved from mine enemies.”

God wants us to be mature and free. We can trust God and depend on His promises. “I will deliver you from the hand of the wicked, and I will redeem you from the grip of the terrible.” Jeremiah 15:21

Step One:
Before we can have victory over an enemy, we must first identify the true enemy. It is difficult for an immature Christian to recognize the enemy in day to day life situations. God compares our spiritual maturity with physical maturity so we can understand.

Just as children mature in stages, so do we as Christians. Just as new born babies cannot eat or digest solid food, sit up, turn over, crawl, walk, talk, etc., every stage of development occurs as an infant matures. As the body matures, their abilities increase until one day the infant becomes a toddler who is able to interact with his/her world on a completely different level than he/she was as an infant. Then “suddenly” this child is no longer a toddler, the child is now able to meet more challenges of development with a little more maturity, but still not wise enough to make important decisions. They still need parents to provide, care for and protect them.

God compares our immature state as a Christian, to young children, lacking wisdom to make good decisions, easily influenced by others and unable to recognize the spiritual battle before us.
In this immature state we don’t always see the enemy’s role, and understand his attacks in life’s problems and day to day situations. This lack of understanding causes pain, confusion and many times some just “give up”, which leads to other spiritual problems for a Christian. You know – the domino effect, one problem (ignored or unsolved leads to another problem, which leads to another and so on).

God wants us to grow up in our knowledge of Him, be mature Christians and “No longer children, being tossed to and fro.” (easily influenced)

Ephesians 4:13-15
13 “Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
14That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;
15But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:”

Step Two Spiritual Warfare: Who is the Enemy? With whom do we wrestle in the following verses?

In 2 Corinthians 10:3-5
For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh: For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty in God for the pulling down of strong holds; Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ”.

Ephesians.6:12 “ We do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.”

Step Three - God has given us a foundation which provides protection and deliverance from satan and his fallen angels. [Ephesians 6:13-18]

Put on the whole Armor of God!
Helmet of Salvation
Breastplate of Righteousness
Belt of Truth buckled around your waist
Shield of Faith
Sword of the Spirit (Word of God)
Shoes of the gospel of peace

What examples can you give of how satan opposes us and is committed to doing everything within his power to keep us from realizing “who we are and what we have” in Christ. (Eph. 6:12)

Step Five- Galatians 5:1tells us to “Stand Fast” in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.”

As long as Satan can confuse us and blind us with his lies we cannot see that those chains have been broken. We are FREE in Christ, but if Satan can deceive us into believing we are not free, we won’t experience the freedom we have inherited through Christ Jesus.

God Bless you in your travels today. Remember, We are on this Journey together, and will continue to be until HE comes. Then we will have reached our final destination and will be HOME in Heaven with our precious SAVIOR for eternity.
By God’s Grace
Rita Bowman

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The Anchor of Hope Counseling Support Group offers a sanctuary for individuals coping with depression, providing a compassionate and nurturing environment for shared healing and personal growth. We are committed to fostering resilience, understanding, and wellness through community support, educational workshops, and evidence-based practices. We aim to empower each member with the tools and confidence needed for managing their mental health, promoting a journey of recovery anchored in hope and solidarity.

This 12-week program begins Dec 9 from 5 p.m. to 6:30 p.m. The cost is $35 per session or $420 for the full program. Financing is available. To register, call 443-860-6870 or email elishaslee@counselingmail.com.

The holiday season is supposed to be full of food, festivities, friends and family. But all too often holidays aren't what we hope they would be. As a family therapist Eva Imber-Black has noted “Families’ greatest strength and their most painful vulnerabilities are in the air at holiday time. Things that happen during the holidays will all become an indelible part of family history.

Family rituals. Family rituals such as coming home for the holiday define family life. They are patterned ways of relating to one another. Rituals focus interactions and clarify both individual differences and emotional connections among family members and friends.

When they work rituals provide family members with a sensible longing that reinforces family connections, values, and ethnic traditions. When they go bad, family members may feel isolated, lonely, and depressed as though they were in the midst of strangers. (King Solomon indicates that we must have heart-to heart relationships with family that are based on boundaries and sincerity - Prov 27:10b) Rituals that bring families closer are:

Flexible. Traditions must be flexible enough to allow members to respond to family changes and to allow some spontaneity.
Voluntary. When practiced out of duty alone, a tradition can become a meaningless obligation rather than a joy.
Balanced. Rituals should reflect all the needs of all family members and not just the interests of a few. For instance, when children grow up and marry, they have two homes to visit for the holidays not just one.
Honest. Families may try to avoid painful memories like the death of a loved one by adopting a business-as-usual attitude to holidays, but holiday gatherings can be a special time for family members to come together and deal openly with feelings.
Enduring. death divorce or natural disasters can disrupt family to distance. Although it may seem easier to let rituals falter and die, they can provide real sustenance and become even more meaningful during trying times.

When rituals are both rooted in the past and adopted to present needs, they can provide families with an ongoing sense of continuity and change. Remember that John Gray said that tradition is the living faith of people who have passed on and traditionalism is the dead faith of people that are still living.
Family changes: Families like the individuals in them grow and change families gain members by birth or marriage, lose them through death, divorce, or distance. Family members’ priorities may change as they mature and develop identities apart from the family. The impact of change on families is usually most evident during the holidays.

When faced with change families must find a new map for plotting holiday get togethers. The simplicity of childhood holidays gives way to new considerations, who to include, whose house for celebrations, etc. The strain of trying to please everyone can override the joy and deeper meaning of the holiday. No matter when the changes occur, the way they're handled at this time of year may affect the family ever after. For that reason, most therapists advise caution initiating change on special occasions.

Chances are your family isn't perfect. If you accept this and alter expectations accordingly, you may find there's still no place like home for the holidays.
Holiday Conflicts - at holiday times tensions can run high. Although fighting is a normal part of family life it's more common in holidays because...
Issues abound. One topic conversation leads to another and unsolved issues surface.
Attacks turn personal. Discussions too easily become heated attacks on personalities.
Stereotyping occurs. Problems are exasperated by black and white thinking or either or thinking.
Others joined the fray. Disputes spread as family members take sides.
Try to contain family tensions so they don’t ruin your holidays families need this time to enjoy special events together. Remember, family relationships are more important than petty arguments. Accept your differences and keep your sense of good cheer.
Happy family holidays:
Be tolerant. Extra doses of patience, acceptance and humor during this time of forced togetherness is the key to enjoyable family holidays.
Adjust your expectations. What the urge to idealize the holidays. With modest realistic expectations you're more likely to enjoy yourself and your family.
Keep holiday rituals flexible. Draw a distinction between the holidays as institutions and what they mean to you and your family. Examine family traditions each year; Dispensed with those parts of your celebrations that don't work and preserve what means the most. Create new rituals that reflect family changes.
Make plans. Don't leave holiday celebrations to chance. Let loved ones know what your plans, intentions and expectations are.
Take care of yourself. Traveling disturbs normal routines. Eating and exercise regularly and try to get some time alone.
Don't regress! Returning to your childhood home often reactivates childhood feelings and fears. It’s important to maintain your boundaries – physical, emotional, and intellectual you may even want to consider staying in a hotel rather than your childhood bed.

In the journey of life, each of us reaches intersections that command pivotal decisions—choices that shape our future trajectory. For those who have experienced trauma, these crossroads can be fraught with additional layers of complexity and emotion. From a Christian perspective, understanding the influence of trauma on major life decisions is not just about self-awareness; it’s about recognizing the sovereignty of God in our healing and the decisions we face.

The Shadow of Trauma on Decision-Making

Trauma, by its nature, leaves a mark on our psyche, influencing how we view the world, ourselves, and our choices. It can induce a hyper-vigilant state where decision-making becomes a battleground of fear and confusion. For the Christian, this can mean a struggle to discern God’s voice amidst the clamor of past pain.

In the aftermath of trauma, major life decisions regarding career, relationships, or even faith can feel insurmountable. The fear of repeating past mistakes or new harm can lead to decision paralysis, a state where fear, rather than faith, becomes the guiding force.

The Christian Response to Trauma

In addressing trauma, it is essential to recognize that healing is both a psychological and a spiritual journey. The Bible does not shy away from the realities of pain and suffering. Psalms are filled with cries of anguish, yet they remind us of God’s presence and faithfulness in our darkest hours (Psalm 23:4).

1. Seeking God amid Pain—Intimacy with God can be a fortress in the healing journey. Prayer, meditation on the Scriptures, and participation in community worship can provide comfort and guidance. Seeking God’s wisdom in decisions allows us to surrender our fears, trusting that His plans are to prosper and not to harm (Jeremiah 29:11).

2. The Role of Community - Trauma can often isolate us, making the body of Christ an essential element in healing. A supportive faith community can offer understanding, empathy, accountability, and wisdom that aids in sound decision-making.

3. Walking in Faith, Not Fear - Scriptures encourage us not to be anxious about anything but to present our requests to God (Philippians 4:6). Making decisions post-trauma involves stepping out in faith, often before fears have entirely subsided. In this step of faith, we can witness God turning our mess into a message.

4. The Process of Renewal—Romans 12:2 discusses the transformation that comes from renewing our minds, a critical aspect of healing from trauma. Reframing our thoughts and focusing on God’s truth, we can view our decisions and circumstances with renewed hope and clarity.

The Testimony in Recovery

For Christians, trauma is not the end of the story. It’s often in our brokenness that God’s strength shines brightest. Many biblical figures, such as Joseph, David, and Paul, experienced significant trauma, yet God used their stories for greater purposes. Sharing how we’ve seen God work in our healing can become a powerful testimony that encourages others and glorifies God.

Moving Forward with Grace

As we navigate the aftereffects of trauma, making decisions with certainty can seem like a distant reality. Yet, embracing God’s grace for ourselves and relying on His guidance can free us from the chains of past pain. Each choice becomes an opportunity to experience God’s faithfulness anew.

The impact of trauma on life decisions is significant, but so is the power of Christ’s redemption. As we walk this healing journey, let us cling to the promise that God works for the good of those who love Him and have been called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).

In conclusion, navigating major life decisions in the wake of trauma is a profound challenge, yet it presents an equally profound opportunity for spiritual growth and renewal. Through seeking God’s presence, relying on the wisdom of the Christian community, and walking in faith rather than fear, we can face these crossroads not as victims of our past but as victors in Christ.

American Association for Marriage and Family Therapist Marriage Preparation Program: A Marriage Maintenance Perspective

The “out of the box” program I have chosen to highlight, and review is one commonly used by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapist (AAMFT). The text for this brochure was written by Jeffry H. Larson, Ph.D. I have integrated the key concepts of the conceived program into this week’s discussion reading and video presentations.

Program Content and Staff Commitment

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) has developed a program entitled Marriage Preparation. According to Larson (n.d.). “Social scientists and clinicians have found two dozen or so specific factors that predict future marital satisfaction. These factors can be viewed as forming a triangle-a model known as the marriage triangle” (para. 3). The three factors in the triangle are constructed around three key factors: (a) individual traits, (b) couple traits and (c) personal and relational contexts. It is imperative for the counseling staff involved in the premarital counseling process to have a clear framework, goals and objectives to increase the likelihood of the premarital counseling success. According to Clinton and Trent (2009), premarital counseling is highly recommended so that the prospective husband and wife can gain clarity regarding their “expectations, habits, flaws, beliefs, and values” (p. 236) and to purposefully identify marital assumptions and perceptions held by the couple with a view to minimizing future potential conflict.

Delivery Format

Individual traits include the individuals’ personalities associated with any consideration for marriage as well as an examination of the state of their emotional health. For example, a couple’s level of flexibility and adaptability to various life situations and circumstances should be assessed by the practitioner. In addition, the therapist should endeavor to determine the positive factors such as integrity and self-esteem discerned during the assessment process. Negative factors such as impulsive behaviors or irrational decision making should be identified during the skill development phase of the program. It is also important to establish couples’ worldviews on marriage. What are their core beliefs and values on marriage? Are there possible deep-rooted issues and elevated levels of dysfunction stemming from their family origin? As such, some review of the couple’s interpersonal communication skills is also highly recommend (Clinton & Trent, 2009; Larson, n.d.).

Second, couple traits include the ability of the couple to engage in meaningful and effective couple communication. Effective communication is an integral component of building a team-oriented perspective of marriage. It also serves as a vehicle towards building oneness in the marriage relationship and more effective conflict resolution skills (Larson, n.d). Another critical component of the couple traits is determining how long and how well the couples know each other. According to Clinton and Trent (2009), during the assessment interview some of the suggested questions related to the degree of acquaintance should include: “How did you meet? What do you love about each other?” (p. 237).

Third, personal and relationship contexts include family background characteristics. It is important to establish from both parties if they were previous marriages or any existing children or specific plans about having children. Clinton and Trent (2009) suggest that interview questions on specifics plans in relations to children, parenting styles theological histories, finances and money management, friendship and boundary demarcations, extended familial relationships and the quality of an individual's parents' marriage should all be discussed (Clinton & Trent, 2009; Larson, n.d).

Participants’ Commitment

Participants’ commitment can be compartmentalized into two phases. First, it is important to delineate and understand the premarital factors discussed above. The second phase is based on seeking to assess the three factors outlined above in oneself as well as in the relationship with one’s future spouse. This can be accomplished most effectively by having couples complete a comprehensive Premarital Assessment Questionnaire (PAQ). Best outcomes are obtained when couples are encouraged to gain a meaningful interpretation of the questionnaire’s results with their partner (Larson, n.d).

Strengths and Weaknesses

Three high-quality Premarital Assessment Questionnaires (PAQs) provide couples with useful feedback on their strengths and weaknesses. The three areas of focus are: (a) Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study (FOCCUS), (b) Relationship Evaluation (RELATE) and (c) Premarital Preparation and Relationship Enhancement (PREPARE). It takes approximately one hour to complete the PAQs. Upon completion, the couple receives a detailed written report “about individual traits, couple traits, and contexts of your relationship” (Larson, n.d., para. 7) The strengths and weaknesses in the defined categories outlined above are highlighted.

RELATE can be completed online and provides a self-interpretive report, enabling you to analyze and interpret the results. FOCCUS and PREPARE are used with the assistance of a premarital counselor or clergy person trained in using these instruments. The cost of taking these PAQs is relatively inexpensive ($10 - $30 per couple). All contain questions for people considering remarriage, as well. The accuracy of the results depends on the honesty and insight of the partners when they answered the questions. (Larson, n.d., para. 7)

The fundamental goal of the PAQs is to heighten awareness and discussion between couples. It also serves to: (a) discover the individual strengths and weaknesses of the couple and (b) evaluate their readiness for marriage. Ideally, these goals should be met prior to marriage. The PAQs aim to encourage awareness and couple discussion of strengths and weaknesses and readiness for marriage. The results from the PAQs are used to cultivate discussions between partners to more systematically work on developing individual strengths and overcoming weaknesses. This is important to do because of weaknesses that exist before marriage. which remain unattended, usually develop into bigger problems following marriage. In addition, since couples during the premarital stage of their relationship tend to be more emotionally engaged and committed to their relationship, it is arguably the optimum time to have, what could be at times, potentially sensitive discussions (Larson, n.d.).

Program Application

There are three important keys necessary to move from the application of the Personal Assessment Questionnaire (PAQ) to personal and couple improvement: (a) Identifying the specific areas of concern found in the PAQ results and celebrating the strengths perhaps like healthy personal and family backgrounds, (b) deciding what are the primary contributors to problems in the relationship. For example, poor listening skills, ambivalence to marriage or feeling a sense of familial and partner pressure to get married and (c) identifying the relevant resources needed to help improve any weaknesses discovered during the assessment process. Some possible resources may include “reading self-help books, listening to audio or video tapes, attending a communication skills training group, or premarital counseling” (Larson, n.d., para. 8).

Likelihood of Success

Relationship success in marriage is contingent on a plethora of critical factors. Vernick (2013) sheds light on some of the essentials that she posits are necessary for a thriving marital relationship namely: mutuality (mutual partner contributions to relationship care and maintenance); reciprocity (shared power and responsibilities in the relationship) and freedom (being allowed to be authentic in your marriage relationship). Arguably such couple traits increase the likelihood of marital success. Likewise, Weeks and Hoff (2005) advance a triangular model, not dissimilar to that proposed by the AAMFT, which incorporates three components namely: commitment, intimacy and passion. Commitment is a cold cognitive component, intimacy is the warm and emotional component and passion is the hot “forming the motivational leg of the triangle” (Weeks & Hoff, 2005, p. 24). According to Larson (n.d):

A PAQ may also be helpful in discovering that further assessment or counseling is needed. For example, if an individual's PAQ results show that she or he is depressed, anxious, or has low self-esteem, a more thorough mental health assessment may be recommended, possibly including therapy. The person's improvement in mood and self-esteem will naturally increase the chances of being happily married. (para. 9)

In summary, the AAMFT’s Preparation Program incorporates several salient features geared towards developing the skills training necessary for positive outcomes in marriage preparation. In this discussion, I have sought to highlight some of its key elements including: the program content and staff commitment required, its format for effective delivery, the level of participant commitment needed, the programs key strengths and weaknesses, its application style and the key elements that could determine its likelihood of success.

References

Clinton, T., & Trent, J. (2009). The quick-reference guide to marriage & family counseling. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic.

Larson, J. H. (n.d.). Marriage preparation. Retrieved from https://www.aamft.org/iMIS15/AAMFT/Content/consumer_updates/marriage_preparation.aspx

Vernick, L. (2013). The emotionally destructive marriage: How to find your voice & reclaim your hope. Colorado Springs, CO: Waterbrook.

Weeks, G. R., & Hof, L. (2005). Integrative solutions: Treating common problems in couples’ therapy. New York, NY: Brunner & Mazel.

Hey mama, does the idea of making one more decision make you want to crawl back under the covers? The nonstop choices we have to make—big ones, small ones, and the endless in-between—can leave us feeling like our minds have simply checked out. And it’s no wonder. Between managing the house, caring for kids, and keeping up with everyone’s needs, it’s as if our mental energy gets zapped from morning to night.

If you’re feeling this way, it’s not because you’re doing anything wrong. It’s because motherhood is hard, and the pressure to make endless decisions, often perfectly, is exhausting. So let’s talk about what mom decision fatigue is, why it hits us so hard, and how we can take that mental load down a notch.

P.S. If you’re new here, you might be wondering, who is this person acting like they know? Hi, it’s me—mom of four, and I’ve been through it all, from mental overload to the bone-deep exhaustion. I’ve had my share of days where I just wanted to pause all the “what’s next” questions. So trust me, I get it, and I’m here to help you find some calm in the chaos. Let’s dive in.

What Is Mom Decision Fatigue?
Mom decision fatigue is what happens when you feel like you’re running on empty from making decision after decision. It’s that “I just can’t decide” feeling, even about simple stuff, because your brain is done with thinking. And while all moms experience some level of mental exhaustion, decision fatigue becomes real when you’re juggling everyone’s needs and constantly making calls on things like what’s for dinner, scheduling, and yes, even big life choices.

The Weight of Constant Choices
Motherhood is a marathon of choices. When we’re not deciding what to cook or whether we should sign up for the latest after-school activity, we’re juggling our own work, the household, and our relationships. All that deciding can lead to overwhelm and burnout, making even simple choices seem impossible.

If your mental load feels like it’s weighing you down, you’re not alone. And if you’re struggling with that nagging need to get it just right, check out The Pressure to Be the Perfect Mom: How to Embrace Being Good Enough for tips on releasing that perfectionism.

Signs You’re Dealing with Decision Fatigue
How do you know if you’re caught in the cycle of decision fatigue? Here are a few tell-tale signs that your mental energy may be running low:

Procrastination on Small Choices
When you’re so drained that even tiny decisions feel monumental, it’s a strong sign you’re dealing with decision fatigue. Suddenly, picking a show to watch, deciding on a snack, or choosing what to make for dinner becomes exhausting. These small choices usually require minimal effort, but when you’re burnt out, even thinking about them can feel like one choice too many. You’re not being lazy or indecisive—it’s just your brain asking for a break.

Feeling Overwhelmed by Simple Tasks
Tasks that used to be quick and easy now seem like a mountain to climb. Folding laundry, prepping school lunches, or tackling a basic errand may feel like it requires way more energy than you can give. It’s like each task holds a hidden weight, and rather than taking action, your brain hits pause. Sound familiar? You’re not alone—decision fatigue makes even the smallest tasks feel like big asks because your mental reserves are running on empty.

Irritability and Emotional Exhaustion
Ever notice yourself snapping over something minor or feeling waves of frustration out of nowhere? When your mental bandwidth is maxed out, it often shows up in your emotions. Little things that wouldn’t normally bother you become the tipping point, and you may find yourself more emotional, irritable, or just worn out. It’s as if your tolerance for stress shrinks, and it’s not your fault—it’s your brain’s way of saying, “I’ve had enough!”

Avoidance or Decision Paralysis
Sometimes, decision fatigue shows up as avoidance or an overwhelming feeling of paralysis. You might find yourself putting off decisions that need to be made—like booking appointments, handling emails, or even making a simple phone call. It’s not that you don’t know what to do, but that your mind is so worn out it can’t handle another choice right now. Instead, you might avoid the decision entirely, hoping it’ll become easier tomorrow (spoiler alert: it usually doesn’t).

If these signs feel all too familiar, know that you’re not alone. Decision fatigue is part of the “too much” that comes with modern motherhood, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing or that something is wrong with you. It just means you’re human, doing the best you can. The good news is, there are ways to ease this load and reclaim some much-needed mental space.

How to Ease Mom Decision Fatigue
Let’s talk solutions, because while it may not be possible to skip the decision-making, we can definitely make it easier. These strategies will help lighten the mental load, freeing up space for you to breathe and actually enjoy the moments that matter.

1. Simplify Your Routines to Remove Unnecessary Choices
Routines can be a sanity saver for moms. When you know what’s coming and don’t have to decide in the moment, your mind gets a little break. Mornings are a perfect example—if you can create a flow that feels good, you’ll find that “what’s next” doesn’t seem so hard to tackle.

Simplify Your Mornings
Building a simple morning routine can be life-changing, especially when you’re burnt out. And don’t worry; it doesn’t have to be a strict, all-or-nothing process. Just having a few key things in place can make mornings feel less chaotic. For more on creating an approachable morning routine, check out How to Create a Simple Morning Routine That Works for Burnt-Out Moms.

2. Set Boundaries to Protect Your Mental Space
Saying “no” can feel hard—especially when it’s to something you think you “should” do. But boundaries are the real MVP when it comes to lightening your load. The truth? You don’t have to make every decision or do it all. Setting boundaries lets you focus on what actually matters, which can help calm your mind.

Practice Saying No Without Guilt
Start small by practicing saying no to things that drain you. If an extra activity or commitment feels like too much, let it go. Creating space isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. Need a guide on saying no? How to Set Boundaries and Find Peace: A Guide to Saying No Politely and Maintaining Healthy Relationships has practical ways to start.

3. Use Simple Systems to Cut Down on Choices
No need to dive into elaborate organization methods here; small, simple systems can ease the choice overload without adding complexity to your life. Think about the areas that usually trip you up—like meals or getting out the door. Then put a small system in place to remove some of those micro-decisions.

Meal Planning (Without the Overwhelm): Even a rough meal plan for the week can save you daily decisions on what to eat. Nothing fancy needed—just jot down a few go-to meals.

Clothing Choices: Set out your outfit the night before, or pick one for each day at the start of the week. Every decision you remove frees up a little more mental space.

4. Let Go of “Perfect” and Trust Yourself
When every decision feels monumental, it’s often because we’re putting too much pressure on ourselves. It’s okay to choose “good enough.” Embrace imperfection and know that every decision doesn’t have to be the “best” one.

It might be helpful to think of each choice as an experiment instead of a definitive answer. This mindset shift can make decisions feel less loaded and more like learning moments.

Finding Energy and Peace Amidst Decision Fatigue
When decision fatigue hits hard, self-care is one of the best ways to refuel. Give yourself permission to step away from the constant mental load, even if it’s only for a few minutes. Take a breather, journal, or just close your eyes and sit in quiet. Even small pauses can make a difference.

And if you’re looking to add more small moments of joy and self-connection, try exploring What Are Glimmers? Small Moments of Joy to Lighten Your Day as a Mom to find ways to reclaim little pockets of happiness amidst the daily hustle.

Ready to Ditch Decision Fatigue and Simplify Your Mental Load?
If you’re feeling worn out by the constant decision-making, know this: you don’t have to keep doing it all alone. Decision fatigue is real, and the mental load of motherhood can feel heavy. But there are ways to make it lighter and bring back some ease to your daily life. Let’s recap the key takeaways from today:

Recognize the Signs: When small choices feel monumental, when simple tasks feel like too much, or when irritability sneaks in, it’s time to give yourself grace and acknowledge that decision fatigue is playing a role.

Simplify Routines and Choices: Creating streamlined routines around meals, mornings, and daily tasks takes some of the thinking off your plate and gives you breathing room.

Set Boundaries to Protect Your Energy: Saying “no” or creating space around things that drain you can help lighten the mental load and preserve your energy for what really matters.

Embrace Imperfection: Let go of the pressure to make perfect choices. Choosing “good enough” can be a freeing and powerful way to reduce decision-making stress.

But here’s the thing: knowing these strategies is one thing; putting them into practice is another. That’s where coaching comes in.

If you’re ready to turn these insights into real, lasting changes, I’m here to help…
If you’re finding yourself exhausted by the constant mental juggling act of motherhood, you’re not alone. As a mom of four and someone who’s walked this path, I know just how heavy the daily decisions can feel, from small choices to the big ones. It’s easy to get overwhelmed, wondering if you’re doing enough or if you’re handling things “right.” But here’s a bit of relief: motherhood doesn’t have to mean carrying every choice and task alone, and it definitely doesn’t have to mean perfection.

That’s why I became a mom life coach. In our sessions, I work with moms like you to lighten that mental load, let go of the “shoulds,” and find an approach to daily life that feels supportive, realistic, and just right for you. If you’re ready to feel more calm, more present, and more in tune with what matters most, we’ll tackle it together with practical, down-to-earth strategies that work with your unique life.

In our sessions, we’ll go beyond the basics to get at the heart of what’s causing your decision fatigue. Together, we’ll work on practical, personalized strategies tailored to your unique life and goals, so that you can free up more mental energy, gain clarity, and find a rhythm that truly feels manageable. Here’s how we can tackle decision fatigue together:

Create Custom Routines That Work for You: We’ll look at your daily patterns and build routines that make your life easier—not more rigid. Imagine a morning routine that feels calming, or a simplified meal plan that doesn’t require daily decision-making.

Learn Boundaries and Time-Saving Techniques: We’ll work on learning to say “no” without guilt, identifying time-wasting traps, and creating boundaries around your mental space. Together, we’ll create “buffer” times for decompression that feel doable and nourishing.

Develop Realistic Self-Care Habits for Recharging: Forget the all-or-nothing self-care approach. We’ll find ways for you to recharge in small, realistic ways that fit into your daily life, even with a full schedule and family needs to juggle.

Reframe and Let Go of Perfectionism: If fear of making the wrong choice is fueling your fatigue, we’ll work on releasing that pressure. We’ll build your confidence to make choices that feel right without the weight of “getting it perfect.”

You deserve to feel more present, less stressed, and more at ease in the choices you make each day. If you’re ready to step into a version of motherhood that feels lighter and more aligned with what you truly need, let’s work together to make it happen.

Imagine what it would be like to wake up feeling a bit more energized, knowing you have a toolkit that helps you face the day with more peace and less overwhelm. Ready to find that balance? I’d love to support you on this journey.

Here’s to simplifying, reclaiming your headspace, and finding joy in the little moments. Let’s connect and get started.

-Kelly Mynatt, MA, BCBA, Mom Life Coach